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As Faith Changes

This week we continued the second of a four week series entitled "Changes." Change is inevitable. Some changes are exciting and others are terrifying.

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Mac OS Apps for Youth Ministry

apps [This post is a part of the series Technology in Youth Ministry]

Handbrake. There is not a better tool around if you are trying to get something off of a DVD into a file that is playable directly from your computer's hard drive.

iBooks Author. iBooks 2 and iBooks Author greatly expands the potential of what can be created in the world of digital books. iBooks Author makes it very easy to create a very attractive and high quality eBook for the iPad or iPhone. The potential of youth ministry curriculum that could be created with a resource like this is huge.

MarsEdit. The best way to blog. I use this app to connect to my blog and it does everything that I could want it to do. I keep a running list of post ideas, write first drafts and store them locally, and then proofread, edit, and add media to my final posts before pushing them to my self-hosted wordpress site.

Spotify. Spotify on the computer is completely free and allows you to listen to nearly limitless library of music. If you want to make your music portable, you'll have to pay a fee, but if you are okay with it being only on the computer and putting up with a few ads, the free version will work just fine.

Reeder. If you follow way too many blogs like myself, you likely need some sort of RSS reader program. I use Reeder for the iPhone, iPad, and Mac which all are connected to my Google Reader account.

ProPresenter. This is the best presentation software that is available right now. I've had a bit of trouble getting in working on a network with several machines (probably a user error), but in all my experiences using it on our retreats and weekly programs it works great.

Things. I cannot start my work week without updating my to-do list and looking at the items that need to be carried over from previous weeks. Things allows me to have my tasks scheduled, have recurring agenda items, and divide my tasks into projects.

Logos. Logos provides an incredible Bible study resource. It costs quite a bit of money, but once you have the work of searching for verses, the original greek or hebrew, and finding commentaries is incredibly simple.

What apps to use for your mac?

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Middle School Ministry Interviews: Marko - Part 2

marko's beard [This post continues in a series of interviews with various leaders that are passionate about middle school ministry]

This past fall I had the chance to meet Marko at the Middle School Ministry Campference.  In addition to working as the President of Youth Specialties and starting the Youth Cartel, Marko has spent a significant amount of time pursuing his calling to youth ministry by working with junior high students.  Make sure to read part one of the interview.

How has having kids influenced the way you view middle school ministry?

There’s no question that my experience in middle school ministry has made me a better dad. Not that I’m perfect, by any means; but my years of studying early adolescence and spending time with countless young teens has given me a perspective and understanding that has been a great resource in my own attempts at parenting.

At the same time, parenting teenagers (and parenting young teens in particular) has reminded me how little I know. Or, more accurately, parenting teenagers has reminded me how true it is that every teenager is unique, and they each have their own journey to travel.  This has, in a wonderful way, had a humbling affect on me. As a result, it’s easier for me, today, to see myself as a “tour guide to the middle school world” than as the answer guy who knows exactly what every young teen needs. The third implication that springs to mind is more about parents. I have SO much more sympathy for parents than I used to have. I now understand that most parents are afraid on one level or another (afraid they’re screwing up, doing it wrong, not good enough; or afraid that all their good intentions will be devoured by all the other inputs and influences in the lives of their children). I understand the motivation of overprotective parents. I live with the cultural pressure, every day, that wants to tell me I’m a bad parent if I give my kids meaningful responsibility, or if I allow them to fail or experience natural consequences, or if I don’t “protect” them.

You recently wrote Understanding Your Young Teen; what are some ways that youth workers can partner with parents during adolescence?

Again, the answer could be a book, right? A few thoughts (none of which will be groundbreaking):

  1. Exercise curiosity. I’ve found this to be a critical life skill in the past ten years (in other words, it’s newer for me); but it has big implications for youth workers and parents. Anytime a parent says or does or asks something that’s either slightly annoying, or fully pushes your buttons, learn to be curious about what their positive intent might be. Ask yourself, Why might they be saying that, or doing that, or asking that? What might they be hoping to gain?
  2. Educate parents. You might not be a true peer (assuming you don’t have middle schoolers living in your home); but you’re still a student of students in a way most of them aren’t able to be. Admit that you don’t fully know their experience, but that you’d love to partner with them by sharing what you’re learning about young teen development, youth culture, and the world of middle schoolers.
  3. Communicate your values. To any outsider (parent or other), middle school ministry could easily look like a parade of chaos. Articulate your values, and find ways to slip them into conversations and communication. Parents will always be more on your side if they have a sense that your middle school ministry boat has a rudder.
  4. Finally, keep them informed. The uniformed parent is a potentially dangerous animal, prone to assumption, false expectations, and accusation. Try to get them the details they want and need before they start wondering if you’ll be providing them; then provide them again, for good measure.

If you could share one thing with a middle school ministry newbie that you wished you knew when you started, what would it be?

When doing ministry with young teens, the immediate feedback loops constantly provide you with false information. You’ll experience resistance from parents (and often the church) that could lead you to believe that they see you as a threat, when it’s really only their fear and care coloring their responses and behavior. Middle schoolers seem like they’re not paying attention. Middle Schoolers flip-flop on commitment regularly. Middle schoolers could easily lead you to believe they just want to fart and giggle.  But none of that is true. The real story is that you are doing ministry in an extremely unique and small window of time when the semi-clean slate offered by puberty combines with massively formative years in terms of identity, faith formation, and other major issues that will implicate young teens for the rest of their lives. So, don’t base your “success” on immediate feedback; rather, stay anchored in your unique calling that comes from God (who is very pleased with you).

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Middle School Ministry Interviews: Marko - Part 1

marko's beard [This post continues in a series of interviews with various leaders that are passionate about middle school ministry]

This past fall I had the chance to meet Marko at the Middle School Ministry Campference. In addition to working as the President of Youth Specialties and starting the Youth Cartel, Mark Oestreicher has spent a significant amount of time pursuing his calling to youth ministry by working with junior high students. This has included working specifically as a junior high pastor, volunteering with middle schoolers, and writing some of the best middle school books around. Since he has spent a lot of time thinking and writing about middle school ministry and of course is a veteran working with middle school students, I thought it'd be incredibly valuable to ask him some questions and share those with everyone.

What made you fall in love with youth ministry, specifically to middle school students?

When I first started volunteering in my church’s youth ministry, I wasn’t old enough to work with the high school group. And in college, my first part-time role was as a Junior High Pastor. When I started in that role, I didn’t have any particular affinity to young teens – it was just where there was need in that church. But I quickly became aware of the underdog nature of middle school ministry. I think this is still true, but less so; in the mid-80s, the local youth pastors network was all people who were passionate about high schoolers, and I was a bit of a lone voice. And, to be honest, I think the others patronized me a bit, seeing my ministry to young teens as the junior varsity, and assuming I would someday step up to the big leagues. That assumption rubbed me the wrong way, so I started becoming a student of young teens. I learned about early adolescent development. I was getting my grad degree at the time, and had the opportunity to focus on curriculum development with the weekly real-world lab of my ministry context. That combination of theory and reality birthed in me a deep love for young teens and young teen ministry, and I quickly became convinced of the critical nature and amazing potential of this ministry.

How has middle school ministry changed from when you started as a volunteer to now? I think the primary change is the one we’ve been seeing across all youth ministry: a move away from the notion that great programming produces transformation. But two other shifts are noteworthy:

  1. While middle school ministry is still, in my youth ministry circles, seen as the stepchild of youth ministry, there’s been an enormous shift in professionalism. More and more middle school youth workers stay in young teen ministry for years, and view it as a specific calling. That’s been a wonderful shift. As I grow older in middle school ministry, I have peers who have been at this for more than 10 years (and someone whose been in middle school ministry for 10 years isn’t very different than someone whose been in it for 30 years, like myself).
  2. Maybe the biggest shift is in the culture and experience of middle schoolers. With the extension of adolescence, the drop in puberty, and the implications of the Internet, the life issues that used to predominantly be high school issues are often now middle school issues. Churches used to be able to get away with having an anemic middle school ministry if they had a great high school ministry; but that doesn’t work anymore. If Churches aren’t intentional about middle school ministry, they’re probably going to have a lousy, anemic high school ministry.

Tell me a bit about the middle school ministry campference. What do you love most about this conference/camp? Man, that event is a happy place for me. I launched it last year with the hope that we could gather a bunch of people who really understand the unique calling of young teen ministry. And I knew I didn’t just want to do a middle school version of other youth ministry conferences: I wanted it to be a tribal gathering.

And that’s what it felt like, since we combined the stuff you’d hope to experience at a conference with the relational context of a camp. Sure, the speakers had good things to say, and the seminars and guided dialogues were meaty. But the real beauty (and the total uniqueness of this thing) is that it was all a shared experience. We ate together, played together, and worshipped and learned together.

At most youth ministry events (great as they may be), we middle school peeps are understandably nothing more than a topic. But at the MSMC, we’re together on a journey. It had a distinctly different feeling, as I’d dreamed it would. And, I’ve never seen such unanimously positive evaluations from event attendees. Clearly, we struck a chord.

This year, the MSMC is picking the best of what we learned and experienced last year, and adding some new things. But there’s no question (at least for me) that it’s the one place middle school youth workers simply have to be during the year. (For what it’s worth: I didn’t ask RJ to ask me this question; but I’m stoked he did. Please check out www.middleschoolministrycampference.comfor more info, or to register, and join us on October 26 – 28, in Seymour, IN.)

[This interview will be continued with Part 2 tomorrow]

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Everything Changes

From the moment you enter the world as a tiny baby and until you take your last breath, things will be constantly changing. While change is common, it is often difficult.

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Fashionable Pastors

How important is to you that your pastor has a good fashion sense? Does it matter to you whether or not you can trust your pastor's fashion advice on top of his spiritual leadership? Ed Young of Fellowship Church in ???, Texas recently launched a website called PastorFashion.com. I may be a bad judge of the importance of this because I honestly care very little about my fashion; my wife or my mom buys every piece of clothing I have. I occasionally influence my wardrobe as I add more graphic tees into the mix. Many pastors have incredible impact on culture as they use their unique gifts in films, books, the arts, and even clothing design. But how important is it to have a fashionable pastor in the pulpit?

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Born & Raised by John Mayer

If you're not already listening John Mayer's new album Born and Raised non-stop on repeat, you should probably start. It might just be one of the best albums to come out this year.

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How To Improve Your Web Presence

If you utilize the web to share your ideas, creations, or products, the value of the web presence that you create for yourself or your organization is critical to your success. It is not difficult for anybody, regardless of technological knowledge, to build a website. While anybody can have a presence online, it takes some work to have a positive, growing web web presence.

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How To Be Creative

Creativity is hard work. There are days when writing does not come from a flow of great thoughts, but instead comes from the discipline of putting words on paper each day. If you want to learn how to be creative, you need to practice being creative. It may not be complicated, but it is difficult.

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